(edit title) Ex-wife wants to move back to Sweden with the kids Should I move with them? Options

[Grommet]

Waiting for the feminist solution to Sharia law...should be interesting...

Ya, well, it looks like this:



But good point though Grandpa. Only FemBot crazed Sweden would import thousands of men from countries where women are treated like dogs.

It makes zero sense, but such is the Swedish way.

Personally, after watching that DW interview with Linde, I'd say she should stay covered.

[TheExpatEagle]

Ya, well, it looks like this:
But good point though Grandpa. Only FemBot crazed Sweden would import thousands of men from countries where wom ... (show full quote)

Ya, well, it looks like this:



But good point though Grandpa. Only FemBot crazed Sweden would import thousands of men from countries where women are treated like dogs.

It makes zero sense, but such is the Swedish way.

Personally, after watching that DW interview with Linde, I'd say she should stay covered. ... (hide full quote)

Yeah, the EU had absolutely nothing to do with it. Germany had nothing to do with it. Denmark had nothing to do with it. Blame it all on Sweden.

[Cheeseroller]

Sweden appears perfect from afar...

After 14 years in Sweden, I would say that you nailed it here. IMO, the Swedes are the Japanese of Europe. Never say no, you will never know what they think, are more racist than their government projects and there are definite glass ceilings to foreigners, however well qualified or gifted - Swedes hate a foreigner who is better than them.

Zero conversation, unless drunk which they can use to overcome their fears and blame next day for their "excesses".

Groomed from childhood to believe Sweden is the best in the World without question and fed propaganda their whole lives. This is why so many accepted Swedens COVID lack of response, without question.

I moved to Germany and an enormous weight fell from my shoulders to be among normal people again. You made the right decision not to move. You would have blamed yourself for years for your failure to integrate, first lack of language and when you were fluent, what next?

And did I say boring?! If your hobby is picking mushrooms and walking through forests, ok. If you want culture, fine architecture, excellent museums, romantic weekend trips - look elsewhere! You cannot compare Stockholm or Gothenburg, to Milan, Paris, Munich, Geneva, Nice... or any of the hundreds of ancient cities in Europe that give joy of life.

[TheExpatEagle]

After 14 years in Sweden, I would say that you nailed it here. IMO, the Swedes are the Japanese of Europe. Never say no, you will never know what they think, are more racist t ... (show full quote)

After 14 years in Sweden, I would say that you nailed it here. IMO, the Swedes are the Japanese of Europe. Never say no, you will never know what they think, are more racist than their government projects and there are definite glass ceilings to foreigners, however well qualified or gifted - Swedes hate a foreigner who is better than them.

Zero conversation, unless drunk which they can use to overcome their fears and blame next day for their "excesses".

Groomed from childhood to believe Sweden is the best in the World without question and fed propaganda their whole lives. This is why so many accepted Swedens COVID lack of response, without question.

I moved to Germany and an enormous weight fell from my shoulders to be among normal people again. You made the right decision not to move. You would have blamed yourself for years for your failure to integrate, first lack of language and when you were fluent, what next?

And did I say boring?! If your hobby is picking mushrooms and walking through forests, ok. If you want culture, fine architecture, excellent museums, romantic weekend trips - look elsewhere! You cannot compare Stockholm or Gothenburg, to Milan, Paris, Munich, Geneva, Nice... or any of the hundreds of ancient cities in Europe that give joy of life. ... (hide full quote)

If you say so. You are wrong but who cares about reality?

[Evelyn]

When you file for divorce in Sweden, you will be asked if you have an agreement about the separation of financial assets and also about the custody of your 3 children who are all minors. If you do have an agreement, you will submit that to the court and the court will approve that in most cases. If you are not in agreement about financials and the custody then the court will decide.

[ChocOwl]

When you file for divorce in Sweden, you will be asked if you have an agreement about the separation of financial assets and also about the custody of your 3 children who are ... (show full quote)

When you file for divorce in Sweden, you will be asked if you have an agreement about the separation of financial assets and also about the custody of your 3 children who are all minors. If you do have an agreement, you will submit that to the court and the court will approve that in most cases. If you are not in agreement about financials and the custody then the court will decide. ... (hide full quote)

No, that is not what happens

[w_wallace]

[Grommet]

If you say so. You are wrong but who cares about reality?

You've heard of reality? Doubt it.

[TheExpatEagle]

You've heard of reality? Doubt it.

Yepp and apparently it is a place you've never been to.

[kaism]

[ChocOwl]

[kaism]

[ChocOwl]

Reply to kaism
It is difficult to reply to your comments when they are embedded in a quote from my post. In any case you are unfortunately still incorrect. I am living the reality, as you put it. I have lived in Sweden for a couple of decades and seen others living the reality... so yeah sorry but you are wrong. I have however no idea about the red herring issue of services to children diagnosed with handicap.

[ChocOwl]

ChocOwl perhaps you are trying to help,

Yup. Providing some balance to the scaremongering.
The narrative that divorced, foreign parents have no parental rights in Sweden is rubbish. Sure, your ex can do some crazy shit but this happens in all countries. In Sweden this happens even in Swedish-Swedish ex-couples.

or perhaps it was long time ago when you experienced that things were different.

Nah my personal experience is recent, current and ongoing... I write based on this plus observations of the past 20 years.

If you are worried about not receiving paper post with information updates from the school I wonder what century you are referring to. Pretty sure the vast majority of schools have all info online on some kind of information platform these days.

Any change of residential address or school enrolment must be signed by both parents if there is joint custody. Yes, one parent can forge a signature or something, see my above comment on crazy shitty behaviour.

One can't wonder that a chance you have been brainwashed by the propaganda and incapable to provide a justifiable view of rights of a foreign divorced parent.

Oh dear. I just checked and no, I am not brainwashed.
But hey, if I was brainwashed I would probably not notice that I was, huh!?
Would you notice if you were brainwshed?

I agree with kasim as I lived it and understands what he talks about.

Okelidokely

With that said the best strategy would be remaining as diplomatic as possible with the Swedish ex. If you can't fight them, be friends with them.

Excellent advice for everyone in all situations

[*Guest*]

Yup. Providing some balance to the scaremongering.The narrative that divorced, foreign parents have no parental rights in Sweden is rubbish. Sure, your ex can do some crazy sh ... (show full quote)

Yup. Providing some balance to the scaremongering.
The narrative that divorced, foreign parents have no parental rights in Sweden is rubbish. Sure, your ex can do some crazy shit but this happens in all countries. In Sweden this happens even in Swedish-Swedish ex-couples.


Nah my personal experience is recent, current and ongoing... I write based on this plus observations of the past 20 years.

If you are worried about not receiving paper post with information updates from the school I wonder what century you are referring to. Pretty sure the vast majority of schools have all info online on some kind of information platform these days.

Any change of residential address or school enrolment must be signed by both parents if there is joint custody. Yes, one parent can forge a signature or something, see my above comment on crazy shitty behaviour.


Oh dear. I just checked and no, I am not brainwashed.
But hey, if I was brainwashed I would probably not notice that I was, huh!?
Would you notice if you were brainwshed?



Okelidokely

Excellent advice for everyone in all situations ... (hide full quote)

Certainly for our kids, even though we are together, same house etc.. because we are both registered as parents and guardian's, then everything requires two signatures. If a child is off sick and you phone it in on the automated system, both get texts saying so. For school reports before covid these were face to face, twice yearly, and at our school the teachers would do it twice if split parents couldn't cope with both attending together, the child comes first, not arsey parents.