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Six months in... does it get better?

Regretting moving here

mjennin2
post 17.May.2017, 06:45 AM
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Location: Västra Götaland
Joined: 8.Mar.2010

QUOTE (Mistress_Of_Doom @ 16.May.2017, 12:37 PM) *
I live out in the middle of nowhere and it's great. Relaxed atmosphere, close to nature.

I'm with you on this one smile.gif So much nature and always things to do! Hiking/fishing/swimming/horseback riding/gallivanting/canoeing/biking/gardening/running during the warm months, cross country skiing/snowshoeing/building snow forts and pummeling my sambo as he arrives home from work in the cold months... I don't have a driver's license and essentially live 30 minutes from the train so I don't go anywhere, and I am hardly ever bored! I feel like living outside of the city comes with a fantastic benefit of being able to get close to your neighbors. Country folk are a different breed. My neighbors come over all the time and have fika or we have BBQs or whatnot. Most of them are a million years old and have lived here their whole lives, but my god do they have stories to tell! One of them let me help him deliver a cow calf this year wub.gif

But then again, I suppose it depends on what kind of life / lifestyle one wants to have. I find these things all immensely exciting and fulfilling. I came from Los Angeles so I definitely appreciate the open nature and space to frollick around naked if I so choose ;D
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Mistress_Of_Doom
post 17.May.2017, 11:46 AM
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Joined: 14.Mar.2016

I'm a simple girl too, and having lived in the city in the past I wouldn't say that there are more things to do there. Maybe just more shops, but who is really that materialistic anyway. Mostly old people live around here too, and I'm quite surprised that everyone can speak English! I don't have a driver's license either and public transport doesn't run very often, but I like that time almost goes a bit slower around here.

I came here with an open mind and found the small towns charming, but maybe others came here expecting to get more out of a fast-paced lifestyle or party-style nightlife. Also another thing that drags people back is when people who are under-qualified but come here seeking better job opportunities, but in reality if you can't find anything good in your own hometown what makes you think Swedes want you to work for them? Especially if your skills aren't in high demand, or your skill level/passion isn't above the rest.

I don't mean to sound like I have a perfect life, but it has been easy for me to live in Sweden happily. The only thing I really miss is authentic Chinese food, and it's not so easy to find in V?rmland tongue.gif
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Bsmith
post 17.May.2017, 11:32 PM
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Joined: 25.Jun.2009

Don't be talking it up too much, girls. We don't need a rush of people moving out to the country and spoiling everything!
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Gamla Hälsingebock
post 18.May.2017, 12:26 AM
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Joined: 21.Dec.2006

What is needed here is that some people move out of Sweden...
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Mistress_Of_Doom
post 18.May.2017, 01:14 PM
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Joined: 14.Mar.2016

Haha oh I see where the hostility comes from then. But really it's not for everyone here. Not everyone likes a quiet lifestyle if they are used to the city.
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Gamla Hälsingebock
post 18.May.2017, 08:37 PM
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Joined: 21.Dec.2006

It's the Swedish way...
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rajarana
post 9.Aug.2017, 06:32 PM
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Joined: 3.May.2017

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles OP. Were you able to get help?

Hope you're doing better now.
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axiom
post 9.Aug.2017, 06:38 PM
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Location: Stockholm
Joined: 24.May.2011

One would think most people who write here were forced to move to Sweden, or are being kept as slaves or some indentured servants. If it is really that bad, there is always the option to leave and try for somewhere that works better for you or your wife. What quality of life can t ever be fixing your problems with antidepressants etc.
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*Guest*
post 18.Oct.2017, 09:59 AM
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QUOTE (yurodivy @ 24.Apr.2017, 08:49 PM) *
Sorry, I'm not sure if this is the appropriate place, but I'm sure I'm not the first to write something like this... so where could I post this info?:I've been ... (show full quote)


I don't like my job, my home or my neighborhood. And no matter what I do, I'm stuck here for the time being. And I see no other place to go. So these "victories" actually make me even more depressed...
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Bsmith
post 18.Oct.2017, 11:25 AM
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Joined: 25.Jun.2009

And you're going into winter which is a hard time in Sweden. Do you have the resources to take a trip to someplace warm this winter?
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flaneur
post 18.Oct.2017, 12:01 PM
Post #41
Location: Stockholm
Joined: 19.Aug.2017

Me too. I hate it.

I have a great job, great salary, I live in central Stockholm and never had any single problem with any bureaucratic procedure.

Still...I hate it.

Damn I want to live in New York, this is all boring bullshit.
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BhuBhuKaZoo
post 18.Oct.2017, 01:48 PM
Post #42
Location: Uppsala
Joined: 29.Jun.2017

QUOTE (flaneur @ 18.Oct.2017, 01:01 PM) *
Me too. I hate it.I have a great job, great salary, I live in central Stockholm and never had any single problem with any bureaucratic procedure. Still...I hate it.Damn I want ... (show full quote)



I saw Savage had quote the U.K. as a place many Swedes go and yes, New York is a beautiful city. However, people leave those countries too! I left London, and the U.K. (I have family in the country with a Land Rover and all that) and I just got so fed up with the London life and the country as well. It's the same for many people.

The key is - if you want a change, you should take it on. You only live once and you wouldn't want to look back thinking "what if?"

I moved to Sweden because I love the idea of Sweden - what it represents and the nature that is so abundant here (and unfortunately not being properly protected in the U.K.). Has it lived up to my expectations, not completely - but in other respects, its been better.

I'd lived in New York (albeit for a couple of months only) a few years ago, and again, although I loved the idea of New York, when I was there, I did enjoy it but it reminded me too much of London and the working environment is much too similar (if not even worse).

I would say Flaneur, if you want to go to New York...do it! Its a great experience and one that you don't get without actually going there. It also helps provide some perspective when looking at where you are as well!

Its all well and good saying "this place is horrible" but then having nothing to compare it too but an idea. You've got to live there to see what it's like really!
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Bsmith
post 18.Oct.2017, 02:48 PM
Post #43
Joined: 25.Jun.2009

QUOTE (BhuBhuKaZoo @ 18.Oct.2017, 01:48 PM) *
The key is - if you want a change, you should take it on. You only live once and you wouldn't want to look back thinking "what if?"


Exactly right.
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*Guest*
post 18.Oct.2017, 05:35 PM
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QUOTE (mjennin2 @ 25.Apr.2017, 11:36 AM) *
Change is never easy - especially when you came here without being fully prepared and probably, if we are to be honest, glamorizing the situation. I say this because I have b ... (show full quote)


Mmm, OP, one has to believe you are having it easy...think about those millions who would be happy in your predicament,who are living in Zim,DRC, Somalia or even Bulgaria or Romania!!

*just a thought*
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*Guest*
post 18.Oct.2017, 05:37 PM
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QUOTE (mjennin2 @ 25.Apr.2017, 12:36 PM) *
Change is never easy - especially when you came here without being fully prepared and probably, if we are to be honest, glamorizing the situation. I say this because I have b ... (show full quote)


Where do you come from.
Why did you come to Sweden.
What is your nature of work.
How long have you been working in Sweden.
What is stopping you from returning home.
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