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Posted by: Infamousmango 5.Oct.2020, 11:55 PM
Since moving to Sweden from the US last year, I've met very few people (Corona hasn't helped) and made even fewer friends. It's starting to weigh on me a bit.
Since I don't have a job yet (I never get an interview on the jobs I apply for, likely cause I'm still learning Swedish), nor go to school aside from SFI via zoom, I have no reason to meet anyone and make friends. As such, the only people I really know are my fianc?'s family.
It would be nice to have some friends in the country, let alone the l?n, or kommun. Especially since my Swedish is halting/broken at best.
I live in H?gan?s.
Posted by: Guest 6.Oct.2020, 06:00 AM
What are your hobbies and interests? That's where happiness and better Swedish lies.
Posted by: Infamousmango 6.Oct.2020, 07:58 AM
Most of my hobbies are done at home (craft type things, reading, etc). I fear I'm a rather boring person.
I do plan to get a dog after I have a job, but that's still a long time from now.
Posted by: Guest 6.Oct.2020, 09:47 AM
I bet there are local groups doing the same hobbies, book clubs etc and they won't always pick books written in Swedish etc.. or even if you read the English version they read the Swedish. You need to go to meet sweden, it won't come to you.
Posted by: Martin565 6.Oct.2020, 10:21 AM
Posted by: Infamousmango 6.Oct.2020, 10:41 AM
Posted by: Guest 6.Oct.2020, 11:02 AM
Posted by: TheExpatEagle 6.Oct.2020, 11:35 AM
Have you looked on Facebook for groups? There are expat groups in Sk?ne, Malm?, Helsingborg, etc. A quick look brings up 'English Speakers In Helsingborg' as the biggest group in your area though there general group 'Expats in Sk?ne' might be more Malm? orientated so not ideal.
Then there is the app called Meet Up which is about people getting together in a group.
And don't listen to Martin, he's bitter and twisted. He treats Sweden like a credit card. He expects to be able to get everything up front then pay it back in the future.
The rest of us treat Sweden like a bank account. We only get out what we have put in. Invest in Sweden with time, effort, energy and willingness to accept it is different to where you are from and the interest it pays out is worth it.
Posted by: Martin565 6.Oct.2020, 12:27 PM
Then there is the app called Meet Up which is about people getting together in a group.
And don't listen to Martin, he's bitter and twisted. He treats Sweden like a credit card. He expects to be able to get everything up front then pay it back in the future.
The rest of us treat Sweden like a bank account. We only get out what we have put in. Invest in Sweden with time, effort, energy and willingness to accept it is different to where you are from and the interest it pays out is worth it.
Sweden twisted me ,and the thousands of ex pats like me...I?m paying it back.
Posted by: Infamousmango 6.Oct.2020, 01:29 PM
Not Facebook specifically, but I did do a google search and found a lot in Malm? and one or two in Helsingborg. Malm? is 2 hrs away by bus/train, so not ideal. Helsingborg isn't too bad at 30-ish minutes. I went there a lot last year when I was getting started.
I'll take a look at the library, but - as I said - I don't read Swedish well, so there's no guarantee if I find something I'll recognize it.
I've never actually even been in the City building, though walked passed several times.
Posted by: Martin565 6.Oct.2020, 04:14 PM
Posted by: Gamla Hälsingebock 6.Oct.2020, 04:38 PM
Familiarize yourself about the regulations on dog ownership before getting one...
Search YouTube for "making friends in Sweden"
Posted by: Grommet 6.Oct.2020, 04:44 PM
Or in fact, totally not, as is oft the case.
And you say Martin is twisted? Classic projection.
Posted by: Infamousmango 6.Oct.2020, 05:05 PM
I have researched it thoroughly.
Posted by: Guest 6.Oct.2020, 05:11 PM
Posted by: Gamla Hälsingebock 6.Oct.2020, 05:32 PM
They elevate trolling to a new level...
Oh, wait!!!
Did I say elevate???...Sorry...
Posted by: Martin565 6.Oct.2020, 05:44 PM
Oh, wait!!!
Did I say elevate???...Sorry...
This bollox hasnt even seen the sky over sweden, but is giving people advice on living in the place, you?re a dangerous man!
Posted by: Gamla Hälsingebock 6.Oct.2020, 07:03 PM
Your kindness and attention to my posts provide me with what I need to continue my participation on this forum, it allows me to go on with the inspiration of your amity and good wishes, that are truly my reward for being here...
Posted by: Infamousmango 6.Oct.2020, 07:15 PM
Ignore the doom merchants, there are some who seem to thrive on misery on here.
Not sure if this is the same or not, but I know where the Stadshus is, as it's right across from the bus station.
I realized I forgot to reply to this as I was eating dinner.
First off - you've no idea what I'm used to from the US, so please do not make assumptions.
Secondly - my reasoning to move here was in part because I was homeless, and given a place to live by my fianc?. I did not once say I would spend "all [my] time with other foreigners", in fact often spend many hours with my fianc?'s whole family (almost once a month). However, because I'm still learning Swedish, it's stressful to me to sit in a room full of people speaking Swedish, trying to understand what they're saying, and failing 99% of the time.
I don't think wanting friends who I can speak to in my native tongue is a lot to want.
And, before you ask, I do have a few friends in the US and in England, but it's not exactly easy to go to a movie, out to eat, go to the mall, or just hang out with someone when they're in another country and/or the other side of the globe.
Posted by: Martin565 6.Oct.2020, 07:44 PM
I realized I forgot to reply to this as I was eating dinner.
First off - you've no idea what I'm used to from the US, so please do not make assumptions.
Secondly - my reasoning to move here was in part because I was homeless, and given a place to live by my fianc?. I did not once say I would spend "all [my] time with other foreigners", in fact often spend many hours with my fianc?'s whole family (almost once a month). However, because I'm still learning Swedish, it's stressful to me to sit in a room full of people speaking Swedish, trying to understand what they're saying, and failing 99% of the time.
I don't think wanting friends who I can speak to in my native tongue is a lot to want.
And, before you ask, I do have a few friends in the US and in England, but it's not exactly easy to go to a movie, out to eat, go to the mall, or just hang out with someone when they're in another country and/or the other side of the globe.
Get back to me in two years.
Posted by: TheExpatEagle 6.Oct.2020, 08:09 PM
Posted by: TheExpatEagle 6.Oct.2020, 08:11 PM
Posted by: TheExpatEagle 6.Oct.2020, 08:13 PM
And you say Martin is twisted? Classic projection.
Maybe you didn't invest enough or in the right places? Why is it Sweden's fault that you failed to enjoy life here and not your fault?
That I enjoy life here means I must be a simpleton because you class Swedes as such? Maybe that means you are sub-simpleton rather than superior?
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